Editor’s Note – May 2016
Preview of Naughty Nuri’s Life Centre Kuala Lumpur
The nice folks behind Naughty Nuri’s Desa Sri Hartamas and SS15 Subang Jaya invited me and my Malaysia’s Hottest Bloggers girls over for the preview of their newest outlet at the Life Centre in downtown Kuala Lumpur last week.
Naughty Nuri’s Life Centre is located at:
Lot G-05, Ground Floor, KL Life Centre,
20 Jalan Sultan Ismail,
50250 Kuala Lumpur,
Telephone: 019-300 7221
A Shocking Tale
I don’t normally write about religion as I prefer to keep this site secular. Therefore kindly note that I’m just sharing the passages from the Bible below as it relates to my system of beliefs and morals and not for any other reason.
The Bible tells us believers not to judge others and I try to keep to that as much as possible for it says (rather frighteningly too) that you will be judged (by God) the same way as you judge others. I don’t know about you, but I’d rather not spend my afterlife in hell.
Mathew chapter 7 verses 1 and 2: “Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.”
I try my best as a Christian to follow the 10 commandments, though sometimes it’s really easier said than done.
- “You shall have no other gods before me.”
- “You shall not make for yourself an image in the form of anything in heaven above or on the earth beneath or in the waters below. You shall not bow down to them or worship them; for I, the Lord your God, am a jealous God, punishing the children for the sin of the parents to the third and fourth generation of those who hate me, but showing love to a thousand generations of those who love me and keep my commandments.”
- “You shall not misuse the name of the Lord your God, for the Lord will not hold anyone guiltless who misuses his name.”
- “Remember the Sabbath day by keeping it holy. Six days you shall labour and do all your work, 10 but the seventh day is a Sabbath to the Lord your God. On it you shall not do any work, neither you, nor your son or daughter, nor your male or female servant, nor your animals, nor any foreigner residing in your towns. For in six days the Lord made the heavens and the earth, the sea, and all that is in them, but he rested on the seventh day. Therefore the Lord blessed the Sabbath day and made it holy.”
- “Honour your father and your mother, so that you may live long in the land the Lord your God is giving you.”
- “You shall not murder.”
- “You shall not commit adultery.”
- “You shall not steal.”
- “You shall not give false testimony against your neighbour.”
- “You shall not covet your neighbour’s house. You shall not covet your neighbour’s wife, or his male or female servant, his ox or donkey, or anything that belongs to your neighbour.”
OK in this modern age, it is REALLY REALLY hard to follow all ten of the commandments. I mean “You shall not murder” is relatively easy to follow (although there are times when I do get the urge to kill some people especially when faced with stupid drivers on our infamous KL roads).
Anyway on to the point of this story.
After eight (8) years in the media and being in close affiliation with its related industries, I thought I’d seen it all (how naive of me). From relationship/ business scandals to unethical practices by competitors, or suppliers, it’s gotten to a point that I’ve pretty much lost faith in humanity (the Bible asks us to put our faith in God and not people anyway).
Sure I’ve always had a positive outlook on life, I want to believe that there are still good people out there, and I have encountered good people (many of whom are not Christians just in case you were wondering, I’m not promoting Christianity in this post). There are good people from all walks of life and from different religions and races. Don’t let corrupt politicians who are trying to keep themselves in power use religion/ race/ ethnicity to divide us.
Just that with the way the local and international situation is – massive corruption, a weakening economy, religious extremism/ bigotry, to wars and terrorism, there’s just not enough good news around.
So lately I’ve become rather numb… and even apathetic at times because it’s simply easier than caring. In fact I think that caring too much can make you go stark raving mad.
But every now and then, along comes an incident that shocks you to the core. Just when you thought you know a person well, they do something so totally unexpected that it leaves you speechless. OK I’m trying very very hard not to judge as I’m certainly nowhere near perfect so who am I to judge. However some actions, really conflict with my value and moral systems so badly that I can’t help but wonder what drove the individual to make such a choice and its subsequent actions.
Now I’m sure many of you would have faced a similar situation, if not once, probably many times. But my issue is – how do you deal with it when it’s someone rather close to you?
If the action is socially, morally and religiously wrong (but not against the laws of the land), trying not to be judgemental is a real challenge in itself. Every time I try to address the issue or even analyse it I get rather depressed and have to keep reminding myself not to be judgemental.
So what should I do? Ignore it? It’s a big issue although it doesn’t involve me, the close association of that person to me affects the perception of the people around me regarding that person, and to some extent even me.
I cannot say anything…it’s not that I didn’t try during the lead up to the (shocking) event. I tried many times only to be faced by an ice cold wall. And ultimately it’s that person’s decision and it involves their life. Not mine…
But deep down inside, from experience, I know how the story will end. And there’s no fairytale ending for these types of situations.
So I’ve decided not to take any action. Apathy? No…I feel very strongly about the issue. Just that sometimes, the best action is not to take any action. Just be prepared for the inevitable outcome, and try to deal with it then, as horrible as it may be. Trying to change someone who is dead set on their decision will only lead to a lot of conflict, so intervention might just cause you the relationship entirely.
Some of you might say – but perhaps that relationship is not worth it. Yes you may be right.
But I’m not someone to quit on people, no matter how bad the situation appears to be.
(Disclaimer – if the person is toxic to you, you need to distance yourself from that person, even if it’s a family member. Pray that that person will change one day.)
Oh BTW…don’t be like me being apathetic and all. I’ve learned to care about the things I can change (and try to take actions that affect change) and pray for the things that I can’t. Perhaps that’s the lesson God is trying to teach me from this situation – to have faith and leave it in His hands. A lesson to us arrogant humans who think we can control everything…
So May didn’t start too well for me this year but hey Mother’s Day is coming up this month!
I wrote a review of the special Mother’s Day brunch menu at Soleil a couple of weeks ago – https://timchew.net/2016/04/26/mothers-day-family-brunch-set-menu-at-soleil/
It’s really pretty good but of course quality doesn’t come cheap.
However, that being said, you don’t need to spend tons of money for a special meal on Mother’s Day. Sometimes, just the action of you taking the time out of your busy schedule to spend some time with mom or bring her out for lunch/ dinner to somewhere decent is good enough.
Here’s a nice TV ad that I found on YouTube (and no this is NOT a sponsored post, I just thought it’s a nice TVC).
Make sure you make time to go see your mother, or if you’re not in the same country, do give her a call. You only have one (1) mom ok!