Now I’m sure most of you are familiar with me writing about a lot of lifestyle topics on this site which would include tech, gadgets, automobiles, food and dining, parties, drinks, and of course lots of pretty girls.
While that’s all fine and dandy and I must admit that while I do enjoy covering those topics, I feel the need to balance out this site with some more serious but nonetheless very important topics and this is one of those times where I’m writing about an important topic – bedroom problems.
Now I decided to do a little survey among my friends on bedroom problems and the first thing that people think of is erectile dysfunction (ie. the inability to get your little brother up and standing at attention in the bedroom) but did you know that there’s another “bedroom problem” which affects up to 1 in 3 men across Asia Pacific?
What could that be? The answer is – premature ejaculation.
So what is premature ejaculation you ask?
Now I’m talking about the times when you’re too excited that you fire too soon. That happens to everyone at some point or another especially when the gun has been loaded for some time.
I’m talking about times when you (or your partner if you are a female reading this) have difficulty controlling ejaculation and often ejaculate with little sexual stimulation.
For both men and their partners, coping with premature ejaculation is both emotional and physical, and worse still, studies have discovered that premature ejaculation may be associated with low self-confidence, anxiety, feelings of shame and avoidance of sexual intimacy.
Now this can be serious and can have a long-term, damaging effect on relationships, and to prove my point the second question that I asked my female friends during my little “survey” on this topic was – how would you react/ what would you do if your partner constantly suffered from premature ejaculation during intercourse.
The answers I got were quite what I expected. A lot of females actually didn’t realise that it is a medical condition and blamed it on various factors including that the man was incapable or not very good in bed. Now that’s not a very nice thing for us men having our partners thinking that way as it’s definitely bruising to our egos.
I probed a little further and asked what action the females would undertake with regards to this issue. The answers ranged from the quite harsh “I will leave him” to the more understanding “I will give him a few chances to see if her improves” to the rather funny “I will train him!” while only one female friend of mine actually said that she would speak to him and find a way to address the issue together.
This is somewhat congruent with the fact that premature ejaculation is accompanied by heavy stigma especially in Asia. The heavy stigma surrounding the issue of premature ejaculation is rather ironic and serious as this condition is not uncommon and affects men from all ages, races and backgrounds.
Studies revealed that within the Asia Pacific region, Malaysian men came out on top when it came to the lack of knowledge, which in turn hindered many individuals from visiting a healthcare professional to manage the condition. Now this is probably due to the fact that our authorities rather pay more attention to nude sports participants having their little “Olympics” in Penang than educate the public on important issues such as this.
However all is not lost because – I have some good news which is that premature ejaculation (like erectile dysfunction) IS TREATABLE!!!
Now it is important that men first determine if they have this condition should they suspect they may have premature ejaculation.
Don’t want to go through it alone? Well although premature ejaculation might be perceived to be a man’s own personal problem, it is actually better approached as a couple. 40 percent of women mentioned that they do not discuss about PE as they fear it would hurt their partner’s feelings, however a whopping 62 percent of men reported that they would likely visit the doctor if their partner advises them to.
Therefore, women out there, if you suspect your partner might suffer from this condition, be nice and give your partner a healthy push and motivate him to discuss the matter and seek help from medical practitioners.
To address this rather sensitive topic in a more lifestyle manner, A. Menarini an international biopharmaceutical company recently launched a digital and on-ground campaign called Be Brave in order to create awareness PE is a treatable condition. The campaign aims to educate and inspire men with premature ejaculation (PE) to speak up about their health condition and provoke women to advocate for their partners.
Even if you think you are perfectly normal and a lion in the bedroom, you can take this fun online quiz at www.bebrave.my where you can find out who your “inner hero” is, while women can also play (as the quiz caters to both sexes!) to find out which “inner hero” fits their man just by answering several fun questions. And don’t worry, there’s no “not safe for work” content in the quiz, just some questions that might even amuse you. But be truthful when answering, after all, you’re not bluffing anyone but yourself. Better still, get your partner to play too then see if the results matches each other. No worries if it doesn’t though as it’s just a fun way to engage and discuss a sensitive topic.
Questions are pretty fun and come with multiple choice answers. So I chose the men’s quiz (duh!) and got questions like – where would you rather live?
A) Foldable apartment (for you hipsters out there!)
B) A supersize mansion
C) A chalet by the beach
D) Different places every night
E) In an underground science lab
See! Nothing too sensitive or intrusive!
Complete eight (8) questions and you’ll get your superhero result!
I’m the masked hunter so don’t mess around with me muahahahaha! I’ll defeat you with my intelligence and tactics!
Unfortunately I don’t have a fulltime partner currently to take this test with me but if you do go ahead and share the link with her then compare superheroes!
You can choose to share the results with your friends, replay the quiz or find out more about the condition at www.controlpe.com.my which is the only credible online resource that contains comprehensive information about the condition, a diagnostic tool and suitable treatments available.
You can view the walk-through which provides a quick overview on PE.
Take the test to find out if you or your loved one is the 1 in 3 who has this condition; click HERE.
I did even though I didn’t think that I have the condition and guess what my result was? I most likely don’t!
Be truthful as the test is not recorded and if you’re not sure about the result and would like a more thorough test you can always choose to visit a doctor, and you can find the location of the nearest clinics that offer consultation for men’s sexual health from the clinic locator in the website.
I’m pretty lucky if I wanted to go consult a doctor regarding this issue as there as about two dozen clinics in KL and Selangor which offer consultation on men’s sexual health!
Ladies, there’s a test where you can take that relates to your partner to see if he could possibly have premature ejaculation. If you really love your partner, don’t leave this issue unaddressed as it will only strain the relationship.
So guys and gals, head over to www.bebrave.my to play the quiz, then do yourself a favour and find out more about premature ejaculation at www.controlpe.com.my
It might not afflict you, but having the knowledge about this subject might be of use in the future.
More importantly, if you suspect that you might be suffering from premature ejaculation, there’s nothing to be ashamed of so head over to the Premature Ejaculation Diagnostic Tool (click here) and take the test. Remember – PREMATURE EJACULATION IS TREATABLE and the sooner you address this issue the sooner you and your partner will be having a really great mind-blowing time in the bedroom!